My future-mother-in-law (FMIL from here on out) got me a SLICE machine for my birthday this year. If you don’t know what that is, it’s a cordless diecut design cutter used for scrap booking. It has drive/files that you insert into and so that you can access a bazillion shapes and letters to cut out for scrap booking. You actually quite good about it. In my spare time (which was a lot) while I lived at my parents house during B’s deployment, I messed around with my mom’s scrap booking materials a lot and made mostly cards (greeting cards, birthday cards, Christmas cards, etc.). I don’t really consider myself to be that creative, but I had a lot of fun with it. It was a particularly good distraction for me to take my mind off of things at the time.
I feel like it would be really good for me now to, to keep me busy. The problem is that I don’t have all of the supplies (huge stockpile of supplies) that my mom and FMIL have. B’s mom started talking to me about making all of the save the dates and invitations. she kept talking about it saving money, but I emphatically do not think that this true. In this day and age, making your own stuff does not always save money. Our technological advantages is make store-bought things so easy. For instance, she was also talking to me about how when her wedding over 25 years ago, they made all the bridesmaids dresses. Then she asked me if I had found anyone to make my dresses! Seriously, even if I knew someone that could so, like my aunt does, I guarantee that this wouldn’t be cheaper than getting some dresses at JCrew. You would have to buy all of this nice fabric and put so much time into it, the minimal savings just wouldn’t be worth it.
That said, I would do this just for fun and because I would enjoy it. But I actually want professional invitations because I think it will look much nicer than anything I can do, as I’m not that good at this stuff. I’m okay, but I’m not great. And I want to have the save the dates sent out by September, so I don’t think I have enough time to accumulate all of these supplies and make 130 of them by then. So I was really stressing out about that last week. But I talked to my mom, and she said that I should just do what I really want to do, and not worry about my FMIL’s ideas. I’ve thought about this for a second and I decided that I really want to make the table cards and escort cards ( and possibly wedding menus and programs), which was my original plan, but I really don’t want to make the save the dates and invitations. I just think that those are the things that are going to go out and sit on people’s refrigerators for many months and I want them to look really nice, and I don’t want to have to stress about them. So that’s what I’m going to do. I’m kind of disappointed because I want to have all the supplies and I want to be more creative and good at this stuff, but I’m not right now and I want to have more time to practice.
I also want to make my own favors, or at least decorate them, and I will have fun doing that. But I keep it hearing of more and more people getting engaged (my cousin just got engaged the weekend before last), and I’m happy for them, but I really want to get my save the dates out so that everyone knows when MY wedding is an there are any conflicting things. It would just make me feel better, but because I want as many family and friends to come as possible. I know people start planning early for the next summer so I want them to have the save the dates this fall.
I just hope my FMIL doesn’t get offended. She is the kind of person that will think I don’t like her gift just because I am not using it for this particular thing. The save-the-dates I designed and picked out online today are only going to cost $120.00, and they look really nice. I don’t think I could make them for much cheaper to get them to look that nice.